Spencer Matthews 'feels lonely' after the birth of his fourth child with Vogue Williams and says 'sleeping in the spare room feels like we've fallen out'

Spencer Matthews has admitted that he has been sleeping in the spare room since the birth of his fourth child with Vogue Williams.

The couple welcomed their son Remy earlier this month and are also parents to Theodore, eight, Gigi, six, and Otto, four.

Nine days after Remy's birth Spencer co-hosted the latest episode of his friend Jamie Laing's Newly Parents podcast and has spoken about how he and Vogue have been navigating life as parents of four. 

'I'm not complaining, but we are in that lovely bubble with three other young kids in a rental house because we're building, so to be honest the bubble feels a bit disturbed there's a lot going on,' Spencer confessed.

'Vogue and I both in our own ways feel a bit lonely at the moment,' he added, explaining that he misses one-on-one time with his wife as he is currently sleeping in the spare room because 'for us both to have broken sleep is unhelpful to the rest of the family flow.'

'We don't sleep next to each other. I'm out. I'm working. Vogue's more at home at the moment. I come home in the evening and we might have an hour together,' he continued.

'We'll eat something and maybe put something on TV, but she's tired and so am I. So, she goes to bed separately to me.' 

'I don't really like sleeping separately to her. We like being next to each other. Even if you're not communicating, you're together. At the moment it feels a bit fractured. It sort of feels like you've fallen out because you're staying in [another] room.'

Jamie, who welcomed his first child, son Ziggy with his wife Sophie Habboo last year, agreed that he too has struggled with 'not being a couple' since becoming a dad.  

'That's a very real thought that I have quite a lot of the time,' Spencer told his friend. 'Eight years ago we had no kids, now we have four kids.'

'So your life, whether you like it or not, is all about the kids... Any freedom that you enjoy as a, dare I say, successful couple that should be able to just do stuff, you kind of can't.'

When Jamie mentioned that on the rare occasion he and Sophie have enjoyed a date he finds himself constantly thinking about his son, Spencer disagreed, insisting 'I can spend time away from the kids to be honest!'

'Look I love my kids. In the same breath, I can easily spend time away from my kids. And I think I think that's normal, isn't it?'

'I was a kid, I don't remember my dad, right? And that's not a dig at my dad. My dad would just be working. He'd be gone when I woke up and he'd come home after I went to sleep. So, he wasn't there as much.'

'I loved my dad and we have an amazing relationship, but he probably never once fed me a bottle, never cooked for me, never changed me, never did never did anything that modern day fathers do and enjoy doing with their with their wives and partners.'

'I think in many ways the roles were probably more defined whether it be right or wrong back then, right? Whereas there's a lot of juggling now.'

Spencer explained how with the help of their nanny he is 'in charge' of his three older children in the mornings, cooking breakfast and doing the school run whilst Vogue prioritises feeding their newborn and catching up on her sleep after the night feeds. 

Whilst he admitted his patience is often tested by the hectic mornings with his three older kids, he insisted his wife 'has got the hardest job,' admitting 'I would really struggle with having the baby on me all of the time.'  

Just days after the birth of Remy, Spencer was back racing as he crossed the line at London's The Big Half half marathon. 

Speaking in an interview after the race he said: 'Running completely changed my life. It gives me something outside of work and family to strive towards and chip away at.

'I think for me, who spent a lot of their adult life like a little bit lost and without purpose, it's really helpful to me to have this kind of structure in my life.

'And there's nothing more satisfying than feeling proud of yourself. It's a really underrated feeling. 

'So you know, I feel proud of myself today. But I love chipping away at the goal. It means a lot to me, and it's completely transformed my life.'