Bethenny Frankel's brutal dating advice for 'snowflake' women... And why she loves to 'torture men'

When it comes to dishing out dating advice for women, Bethenny Frankel isn't holding back.

The reality TV star, 55, said women can be 'snowflakes' about dating and suggested they need to be less competitive with one another about men - even suggesting they share dates with friends and stop gatekeeping.

'It's about alignment and being very specific about how you live [and] how you flow, and women should not be as competitive about men as they are because the same person would not be for any of us,' she told the Daily Mail.

'For nuances, how many kids do they have? What age are they? What religion are they? Are they very this? People are like snowflakes, so you really do have to find the right alignment, not just how tall they are. And you got to wait. You have to fish.'

She continued: 'If someone's not right for you, but they're a good person, you should immediately connect them with someone else. Women gate keep. Move on dot com.'

The Skinnygirl entrepreneur, who was speaking alongside pals Ramona Singer and Sonja Morgan to promote their Roc Skincare campaign, has ample experience when it comes to dating.

She married Jason Hoppy, 54, in 2010, but they separated two years later in 2012. They are parents to daughter, Bryn Hoppy. After battling over custody and finances and even harassment allegations against Hoppy, the divorce wasn't finalized until 2021.

But the torture of that split didn’t stop her from trying to find love again.

In 2016, Frankel met banker Dennis Shields. The pair dated off-and-on and got engaged in April 2018. Shields died shortly after calling off their engagement that August.

The former Real Housewives of New York City star found love again on a dating app with real estate developer Paul Bernon in late 2018. After a brief split in 2020, the two got engaged in early 2021 but ultimately called it quits in May 2024.

Currently, Frankel is dating 48-year-old Miami-based investment banker Shane L. Campbell.

So well-versed is she in dating that Frankel has now turned it into a business endeavor.

In 2025, she launched The Core to help match people with intention. Memberships range anywhere from $50 to $1,200 with prospective members going through an intense invite only, screening process.

'I haven't been personally dating in there,' said Frankel, who swerved questions about Campbell. 'It is a business. I'm finding that it's been an amazing space to get into.'

Since relocating to Miami with her daughter from the Hamptons in 2025, Frankel admits life is really good.

'I'm a very serious beach person,' she said. 'I take a beach walk almost every day. I like to be near the ocean. In the Hamptons, I have a place on the beach. I just feel at home. It's not about the social and I'm not doing all the things Ramona is doing. I'm not doing all the tennis and the golf, and I just like to feel free and be by the beach. 

'I have a place in Miami and then another place north. Dating is fun there. I don't know. I'm really happy and my daughter's happy.'

While Frankel has chosen not to participate in The Golden Life, a new series on E! starring Morgan, 62, Singer, 69, as well as other former Bravo costars, she was happy to reunite in Paris with her friends to celebrate RoC’s Reverse the Clock by 10 Years campaign and reveal their Retinol Correxion Rich Cream.

'It's different for all of us,' Frankel said of filming the iconic campaign. 'For them, they're on a show. This is amazing that everyone's so rabid for them. It reinforces why they should bring it and why they're gonna be successful on their show. 

'For me, it's amazing clickbait. It tortures people. It's just the tip, just to see how it feels. Like, you see us together and everyone's like, wait, is it? It's like, yeah. It's blue balls for the audience, you know? I love to torture men and the audience. It’s good for all of us to have goals.'