Olivia Wilde, 42, finally breaks her silence on 'loveliest' romance with Harry Styles, 32, as she accuses his fans of being enraged by their happiness and placing a 'weighty burden' on him

Olivia Wilde has finally broken her silence on romance with popstar Harry Styles as she admitted 'it really upset people'.

Appearing on the Call Her Daddy podcast on Wednesday, Olivia, 42, told host Alex Cooper: 'It really did upset people! People were f***ing p***ed!

'We had the loveliest relationship! Like, so sweet and so beautiful and domestic. I think that we existed in this little bubble and the judgment never really got into that bubble, which was a miracle and a real testament to us making that happen.

'There was all this public madness but my private life was very far from it and very actually kind of wholesome and sweet.

'I had real joy and love and happiness during that time. It was like the tornado was right outside the door and if you were inside, you were like, it's so nice and then you'd open the door and a cow and a tractor would fly by.'

Harry and Olivia dated for nearly two years, from late 2020 to November 2022 and she also spoke about the 'impossible burden' Harry has to carry as an adored superstar.

She said: 'It had a lot to do with the kind of parasocial relationship people have with him which is a burden that is very weighty - and not something I envy.'

A parasocial relationship is a one-sided psychological bond where an individual feels a sense of intimacy, friendship or familiarity with a celebrity.

She continued: 'He carries it with grace. I think that is an enormous, enormous responsibility that all those stars have to carry and it's impossible.

'It's almost like the happiness made them [the fans] mad. I would go to his shows and dance - and people were like, "Oh, oh good. You slut. "How dare you dance and smile?"'

Harry and Olivia connected on the set of the film Don't Worry Darling in September 2020, in which Harry starred alongside love interest Florence Pugh.

The movie sees a husband [Styles] leaves home every day to work in a top secret facility, while a young 1950s housewife, [Pugh] begins to question her life when she notices strange behaviour from the other wives in the neighborhood. 

Olivia directed the movie which was released in 2022 and said her decision to go quiet since then was totally intentional. 

She said: 'I felt like I needed to get quiet and needed to hear myself again and process all the pain and the lessons that I could find with it.

'My own attempt to be strong and to rise above it came across as inauthentic because people were like “you must be hurting, why are you pretending to not be hurting?" [because of the split]... I’m a different person than I was three years ago.' 

Olivia and Harry's amicable split was thought to be down to the pressures of his global touring and Wilde's focus on her children in Los Angeles.

She has two children with Ted Lasso star, Jason Sudeikis, son Otis Alexander, 12, and daughter, Daisy Josephine, 9.

Harry's new song Paint By Numbers is considered to be a break-up song about Olivia. 

The lyrics go 'You're the luckiest, oh, the irony/ Holding the weight of the American children whose hearts you break/ Was it a tragedy when you told her/ 'I'm not even thirty-three?'

Many believe the split had to do with him not being ready to make that big step as a family.

Harry is now engaged to actress Zoe Kravitz, 37, while Olivia was last seen indulging in a PDA with Ellie Goulding's ex-husband Caspar Jopling, 34. 

Olivia talks about the pressure of being a working mum in the podcast, saying: 'It's crippling. It's so hard. And the only thing that heals it is talking about it. 

'And sharing, all things with shame. Once you air it out, then it dissipates. Then it it it shame dies once you once you share. But it is hard. It's hard. 

'I think it's one of the reasons that more women don't direct films is because the feeling of saying like I have to go I'm going to miss soccer practice. I'm going to miss this adorable Christmas pageant because I'm going to be on set. 

'And I'm not even like speaking truth to power as a journalist like my mom [was]. She was like making the world better. I'm just like telling funny stories on film. 

'And sometimes you're like, "Oh man, I it is it's really hard to to get over that judgment." But there's a lot of other moms going through it.'

Olivia also spoke about her split from Jason, saying: 'I really do I think that there's a lot of people who stay in relationships because they feel this obligation. 

'And a lot of the time it has to do with the fact that they feel this extreme shame and guilt for breaking up a family because they assume that that means that the kid will have less love. But that's a choice. 

'And you can create a dynamic that allows that kid to have maximum amount of love. I mean, we are great [ __ ] co-parents.'

Olivia said she did a 'ton of therapy' and saw the split as an opportunity to 'rebuild her life.' 

'These kids are consistently getting the best of us in a way that when we were together was not possible because we did not work together, but we work really well as separated co-parents. And I so when I talk to people who are just in very unhappy situations and staying in it for the kids, I'm like, you're doing no one any favours.'

Many people won't know that Olivia got engaged at Burning Man and subsequently eloped on a school bus with Italian filmmaker and musician Tao Ruspoli in 2003 but she said she wasn't looking for marriage at the time. 

She said: 'No. My god. No. I I think it was like it seemed like probably the craziest thing to do and and it was so romantic and insane that I think I was like let me do the most unexpected insane thing...

'We did not have a very traditional marriage. It was very bohemian. And I am grateful for it because it's meant that I spent most of my 20s I mean, I guess we broke up when I was like 25. 

'It lasted really, six years, seven years and I that was my only marriage. I never got married again. I think that being a 25-year-old divorcee is really funny.  

'Imagine dating and you're like so I'm 25 recently divorced where you're like I can rent a car?' 

Olivia said it ended with an awareness of 'Whoa, what are we doing? This is nuts. I'll probably get married at 85.'