Olivia Colman shares the secrets to her 25-year marriage to 'lucky' Ed Sinclair after revealing she describes herself as a 'gay man' and 'feels non-binary'

Olivia Colman shared the secret to her 25-year marriage to 'lucky' Ed Sinclair as she opened up about their relationship on Wednesday. 

The actress previously revealed she has always described herself as the 'gay man' in her marriage and 'feels non-binary'. 

In a new interview, while promoting her new film Wicker, Olivia claimed that she and the director don't argue because they are 'not conflict people'. 

Sharing her marriage advice, The Crown star said: 'Be kind to each other and we've learned over the years to try not to let things... oh hang on, I heard one person who had been married about 50 years say, "Sometimes it's the things you don't say". 

'Which was very wise, but not everyone will agree with that so wait for the right moment to bring it up in a nice way.

'I'm not a conflict person, nor is my husband, but we've learned over the years to definitely try and talk about, you know, "That thing on Tuesday can we talk about that", in a calm way and then it works well. 

'Find a nice gentle time to say, "Can we talk about that thing", and often it is, "What thing?" but if one of us has been upset by it then we'll talk it through.

'For some people it works in the heat of the moment, and that doesn't work for me.'

Olivia and Ed met in the 1990s while attending school in Cambridge.

They fell in love while rehearsing for a Cambridge Footlights production of Alan Ayckbourn's Table Manners.

The actress revealed she spent six weeks memorising the words to a song he liked and also learnt his timetable.

'I sort of stalked him,' she told Bustle. 'Which I don't condone. It did work in our case.

'I remind him every day that he is a very lucky man.'

At the time, Olivia was studying to teach at Homerton College, Cambridge, while Ed initially studied law at Cambridge University.

Ed soon shifted to the arts and attended the Bristol Old Vic Theatre School to pursue acting.

He's appeared in small roles, most notably in the BBC's Look Around You, before becoming a screenwriter and film producer.

Ed wrote the 2021 Sky drama series Landscapers starring Olivia and David Thewlis, and recently produced The Roses starring Olivia and Benedict Cumberbatch as a husband and wife at war.

The couple are parents to three children: two sons, Hall, 18, and Finn, 20, and a 10-year-old daughter.

Their firstborn, Finn, was born in 2005 while Hall joined the family in 2007.

Their daughter came along in 2015 while Olivia was filming The Night Manager.

Last year, Olivia admitted that she's scared of sex scenes because it feels like she's cheating on her husband.

Olivia shared on Good Hang: 'Anything where I have to show any skin, I don't like. Pretending to have sex… I don't like it. I feel like I'm being unfaithful.

'Even when they go, "You can wear your jeans", or a cushion between you. I don't want to do that. I don't want to do that.'

Olivia and Amy both applauded the actors who take on the task comfortably, with the host saying: 'The people that are good at it, I'll watch them all day long, and they're comfy. But the on-screen orgasm…'

The actress said: 'No, absolutely not… Thank God for intimacy coordinators,' before mentioning that she's been told to just imagine the sun is hitting her face when she's supposed to fake an orgasm.

Earlier this year, Olivia said she has always 'felt sort of nonbinary' as she opened up about her identity in an interview.

The actress said she has never felt comfortable with rigid gender roles, including in her own marriage.

The star explained: 'Throughout my whole life, I've had arguments with people where I've always sort of felt nonbinary.

'I've never felt massive feminine in my being female. I've always described myself to my husband as a gay man.

'And he goes, "Yeah I get that". And so I do feel at home and at ease.'

She added to Them: 'I don't really spend a whole lot of time with people who are very staunchly heterosexual... The men I know and love are very in touch with all sides of themselves.

'I think with my husband and I, we take turns to be the "strong one", or the one who needs a little bit of gentleness. I believe everyone has all of it in them. I've always felt like that.

'I'm not alone in saying, "I don't feel like it's binary". And I loved that. I came away from making this film with, yeah, I knew I wasn't alone.

Nonbinary is a term used to describe a person's gender identity that falls outside the traditional male and female binary.